How can therapy help me? Are there any negative side effects?
A number of benefits are available from participating in therapy. Therapists can provide support and help develop problem-solving skills and coping strategies for issues such as depression, anxiety, relationship conflicts, unresolved childhood issues, grief, stress, negative body image, and creative blocks. Many people also find that a skilled counselor can be a tremendous asset in managing personal growth, interpersonal relationships, family concerns, marriage issues, and the hassles of daily life. A therapist can provide a fresh perspective on a difficult problem or point you in the direction of a solution. The benefits you obtain from therapy depend on how well you use the process and put into practice what you learn. Benefits include:
- Attaining a better understanding of yourself, your goals, and your values
- Developing skills for improving your relationships
- Resolving issues or concerns that led you to seek therapy
- Learning new ways to cope with stress and anxiety
- Managing anger, grief, depression, and other emotional pressures
- Improving communication and listening skills
- Changing old behavior patterns and developing new ones
- Discovering new ways to solve problems in your family or marriage
- Boosting self-esteem and self-confidence
As with any treatment, there is the possibility that you will experience negative side effects as a result of therapy. Discussing difficult life events and the personal issues you’re struggling with can invoke painful emotions. One characteristic of a good therapist is the ability to recognize and address negative side effects as they occur. However, psychotherapists are not mind readers. If you are having difficulty coping with negative emotions that have arisen as a result of therapy, don’t assume your therapist intuitively knows exactly what you are feeling, why you are feeling it, and how you would prefer him or her to respond.
People seeking therapy for the first time are often concerned about finding a therapist that is a good match for them. Psychotherapists are trained to counsel people with a range of personalities, cultural beliefs, and personal preferences that may differ from their own. But training and experience are not always enough to allow you to feel comfortable opening up with a particular therapist. Maybe you are annoyed by the way your therapist clicks her pen repeatedly during session or upset because your therapist doesn’t show enough emotion or shows too much emotion during your time together. You have the right to terminate therapy at any time for any reason, large or small. While it may be helpful for both you and your therapist if you offer feedback as to why you are terminating therapy, you are under no obligation to do so.